Introducing Samara

Hi, I’m Samara. I’m a women’s Transformational Coach, Mentor, and Speaker, and a long‑standing member of PPF since 2022. Just shy of one year since leaving the corporate 9-5 world, I now run my own soul‑led business, supporting high‑functioning women across the globe.

I work with women who look like they’re doing well on the outside, yet feel disconnected, dysregulated, or quietly unfulfilled underneath it all. Through modalities such as NLP, hypnotherapy, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and emotional intelligence education, I guide women out of their heads and back into their bodies. I offer1:1 coaching, in‑person events, retreats, and soon, group programs.

I’m deeply passionate about showing women that there is another way to live. A way beyond surviving, coping, or constantly pushing through. I know this because I was once there too. Highly dysregulated. Disconnected from myself. Stuck in old stories that felt true but weren’t. This work changed my life, and now I guide women through that same transformation.

Why goals often don't stick

Every year, people set goals with the best intentions. New routines. New habits. New versions of themselves.And yet, so many of those goals quietly fall away within weeks or months.

This isn’t because people lack discipline, motivation, or commitment. It’s because most goals are createdfrom the mind alone, without considering alignment, values, or the state of thenervous system.

Your nervous system doesn’t care if you’re happy. It cares if you feel safe.

This is something I say often to my clients because it changes everything. Internal safety is the foundation of sustainable change. If your nervous system doesn’t feel safe to receive what you desire, you will unconsciously resist, avoid, or sabotage it, no matter how much you consciously want it.

Nervous system safety has become a popular phrase lately, but it isn’t a trend. It’s the baseline of how we function. When your system perceives threat, even subtle threat like pressure, urgency, or fear of failure, it will default back to familiar patterns.

This is where the unconscious mind comes in.

Your unconscious mind is responsible for around 95 percent of your thoughts, behaviours, and decisions.That means most of what you do, or don’t do, isn’t driven by logic or will power. It’s driven by safety, familiarity, and conditioning.

Most people set goals from the mind. The mind wants growth, change, achievement, and results. The body asks a very different question.

Is this safe?

Try asking yourself this honestly. How safe do I feel to receive the very thing I want?

The answer is usually immediate. Your body responds faster than your thoughts. And if the answer is not very safe, then the work isn’t to push harder or become more disciplined.The work is to create safety from within.

Aligned goals feel very different to goals created from pressure. They feel grounding rather than overwhelming. There may be excitement, but there is also steadiness. They aren’t fuelled by urgency, comparison, or fear of falling behind. Alignment creates sustainability.

How to create lasting change

This is why I advocate for goals that support your life, not consume it. Goals should integrate into your day-to-day reality, not override it. When a goal requires you to constantly override your body, your energy, or your capacity, it will eventually fallaway.

I remember years ago setting a New Year’s goal to “get fit.” Looking back now, I can see how deeply my body was in survival mode. My inflammation was high, my system was under constant stress, and safety was nowhere to be found. So of course my body didn’t feel safe to lose weight or push harder. And so it didn’t.

Small, consistent actions always compound more than extreme plans. And consistency isn’t about willpower.It’s about safety.

A powerful way to approach goal setting differently is to ask new questions. Instead of asking what you should do, ask what supports your nervous system. Ask what feels sustainable in this season of your life. Ask what it would look like to honour yourself daily, rather than pushing yourself to meet an unrealistic standard.

Every time you show up for yourself in a way that feels supportive, you build trust. This might look like moving your body in a way that feels nourishing (such as a reformer pilates class!), honouring what you said you would do, or sticking to a plan that actually fits your life. Over time, this self‑trust becomes deeply regulating for the nervous system.

This year doesn’t need more pressure. And neither do you. What creates real change is presence, honesty, compassion, and self‑truth.

What to reflect on when setting your goals

When I guide my clients through goal setting, the nervous system is always considered. If a goal immediately sends you into fight or flight, it’s not aligned. That doesn’t mean you lower your standards. It means you meet yourself where you actually are.

A self‑audit can be incredibly powerful here. Where are you truly at in your life right now? Where do you want to go? And what needs to shift for that journey to feel supportive rather than destabilising?

It’s also important to remember that your nervous system will always default to what feels familiar, even if that familiarity no longer serves you. Sometimes the work isn’t about forcing change. It’s about gently showing your system a new normal. One that feels safe enough to hold more ease, consistency, and fulfilment.

Rather than overhauling your entire life, I invite you to reflect on these prompts.

• What am I truly craving more of this year?
• What did I enjoy about last year, and how can I create more of that?
• What supports me feeling regulated and resourced?
• How can I commit to myself in a way that feels kind and powerful?

True change happens when the body and mind move together. They are not separate. They are one system, constantly communicating.

Get in touch to learn more

If you’re curious to learn more about your nervous system, your unconscious mind, and how to create lasting, embodied change, you can find everything in one place via my Linktree (https://linktr.ee/samaraspeaking)

There you can download my free nervous system safety eBook, listen to Samara Speaking The Podcast, apply for my 1:1 coaching container, or secure your spot at my upcoming Valentine’sDay women’s retreat on February 14.

Because when your nervous system feels safe, everything else becomes possible.

Samara x

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